Coverage Areas:  National |  South Carolina |  Aiken |  Beaufort |  Charleston |  Columbia |  Greenville |  Myrtle Beach |  Rock Hill

Loving our neighbor even when it’s confusing

The Lord tells us that everyone is our neighbor — the stranger, the sad-faced child, the loner, the drunkard, the prostitute, the leper, the sell-out, the natural enemy. That means that everyone is worthy of our love and care, and no one is unworthy.

It is so, so easy to spout this Chris­tian message. Every now and then it’s actually not too hard to live it. At other times, though, it’s quite a stretch.

Take this scenario. You’re in the aisle seat on a small plane. The window seat is occupied by a young guy who appears to be 90 percent tattoo and 10 percent body pierc­ing. The hair is cut short except for what looks like a rooster’s comb set straight up with gel in the middle of his head. You chat. He’s headed for South Dakota after a stop in Atlanta.

He notices that you are a Catholic. (It’s either the crucifix or the mirac­ulous medal.) “My grandmother was a wonderful Catholic,” he says. “She went to Mass every day and sent me through 14 years of Catholic school.” (He got over the uniforms and dress code, you think to yourself.)

He continues, “I was named for her, baptized Mary Catherine. I waited till she died to change my name to Skywalker.”

You’re very nice to Skywalker. If you had known this person for years, say as a student or as an altar server, you would probably engage and chal­lenge. This, however, is not the time and place.

Later, though, you’re quietly quiz­zing God. What on earth is going on? Have notions like etiquette and civic virtue been eclipsed by the cultural ethic of “Whatever”? Have sublimi­nal messages advancing relativism crammed our psyches? Or has our orange juice been spiked with mind-altering drugs?

Christian love demands that we acknowledge that we live in a broken and addled world. It insists that we follow in the Lord’s compassionate footsteps. It trusts that we leave it to God to read hearts and souls. How­ever, Christian love calls us to stand firm in God’s word, Catholic moral and social teaching, and what our long Catholic tradition understands as natural law. We cannot simply shrug and say that whatever some­one cooks up about gender, love, and marriage is OK.

Some choices don’t make for the well-being of persons. Some things do benefit human society. Our Catho­lic reverence for human dignity calls us in two directions: one toward benevolent conduct toward all, the other toward faith-filled commit­ment to godly standards of behavior. It’s tough to strike a balance.

Pope Francis offers some impor­tant insights on these matters. There is a balance to strike as we address individuals alongside the whims of media and politics and judicial deci­sions. The papal exhortation “Amo­ris Laetitia” (“The Joy of Love”) offers us valuable guidance for our modern-day dilemmas. That is why the next few entries to this column will consider this document from Pope Francis. It may actually help us through these airplane encounters.

  • Diocesan Events Calendar
    View All Events
    Nov 17 Diocese of Charleston Native American Catholic Heritage Celebration
    From the Calendar of Native American Ministry
    Nov 18 Vietnamese Martyrs Celebration
    From the Calendar of Vietnamese Ministry
    Dec 1 Black Catholics Heritage Celebration
    From the Calendar of African American Ministry
    Dec 15 Simbang Gabi for Filipino Catholics
    From the Calendar of Filipino Ministry
    Dec 25 Diocesan Television Christmas Special Fox 21
    From the Calendar of Ethnic Ministries
    Jan 412:00 am Class 2019 Ordination Retreat
    From the Calendar of Diaconate
    Jan 812:00 am Retiro Espiritual de Emmaus
    From the Calendar of Pastoral Juvenil
    Jan 1210:00 am Junta de Equipo Diocesano de Emmaus
    From the Calendar of Pastoral Juvenil
    Feb 911:00 am Ordination of Permanent Deacons
    From the Calendar of Diaconate